Self Loathing

When we see our internal flaws and hyper-inflate them, we can end up feeling disdain for ourselves. This vantage point is a dangerous place to be because we, as humans, are inherently flawed. So if we choose to look for our shortcomings, we will find them. It is useful in this case to keep a general rule of thumb in mind for developing self-love and love of another. This idea is the notion of a 3 to 1 positive comment. That is to say, for every negative thing we say to ourselves or others, we need three positive comments to offset that emotion.